|Posted on January 29, 2019 at 9:00 PM|
Mother-in-laws should always sit in the back. If she doesn't want to do this than it means that she has not yet accepted your marriage. This is a problem that she herself would not want to encounter. Your mother-in-law would not want her husbands mother to automatically think that she is entitled to the front seat of their car, so you should be givin the same respect. There can be exceptions if she is having a medical issue or another reason. Maybe the front seat would be more comfortable for her but let your conscience be your guide! As a wife, the front seat is deemed to you by default and your husband should be on the same page. Unless other arrangements have been discussed ahead of time.
|Posted on January 1, 2019 at 12:15 AM|
Happy New Year to all! With a new year there should be a new resolution for our relationships as well. Has anyone ever heard of Datebox? It's a great tool to help keep things fresh for date ideas. Visit the link below for more information.
|Posted on November 15, 2018 at 3:25 PM|
The holiday season is rapidly approaching us. Many married women are conflicted when they're faced with this dilemma - Who's parents should I spend the holidays with? This decision is actually less stressful than you think it is. The simple answer is: wherever YOU feel more comfortable at! If being with your own family is important to you on the holidays than you should continue to do so. Maybe you and your husband can work out a schedule where you visit his family for one half of the day with him (or on another day altogether) or you can alternate visiting each other's families each year. If the two of you feel comfortable doing so than split up. He goes to his parent's house and you go to your parent's house. If the two of you have children that are old enough to decide within reason, let them choose. As long as they do spend the appropriate time with each set of grandparents without consistantly visiting one and not the other. I know that when you are married technically you are one and you should be in one place together during the holidays. But remember, sometimes there is nothing wrong with splitting up. This shows strength in you relationship that you are actually able make confident decisions while showing him that your family is just as important to you as his is to him!
|Posted on September 4, 2018 at 3:55 PM|
Ladies I know that reading your husbands' mail is tempting but remember this: Do unto others as you'll have others do unto you! If you don't want him reading your private information, don't read his. I'm not saying that there will never be a time that you don't open a piece of mail, email or something else if it has to do with mutual business. But otherwise don't make it a force of habit. A big part of a lasting relationship are boundaries, so don't abuse your limits.
|Posted on July 19, 2018 at 12:15 AM|
“Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.” – Simone Signoret
“Someone once said that marriage is like standing in a corridor lined with doors. You go off through your door, he goes through his, but at the end of the day you have to come back to the corridor, touch base, hold hands, because through every door are more doors, and beyond them, more again, and if you both go through too many without coming back to the corridor, you may never find your way back.” ― Carrie Adams
“All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest – never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principles of equal partnership.” – Ann Landers
“Marriage is the highest state of friendship. If happy, it lessens our cares by dividing them, at the same time that it doubles our pleasures by mutual participation.” – Samuel Richardson
“Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.” ― Esther Perel
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” – Mignon McLaughlin
“Both people need to care deeply about the other person, to put the other’s needs before their own, and to make a daily commitment to that person to stick it out.” ― Alessandra Torre
“No one can go back and change how it started but a new future for any marriage can begin the moment one person begins to invest in it.” – Fawn Weaver
|Posted on July 18, 2018 at 1:00 PM|
We all know that there is a huge problem in our country concerning debt. It is not just that there is so much of it, but it's weird that having a lot of debt is considered normal and expected. There are many places in the Bible that warns us against getting into debt. As a new couple let me encourage you to obey God and avoid debt.
"The one who borrows from another becomes the servant to the lender".
- Proverbs 22:7
Please don’t take this lightly. If you are in debt then work as quickly as you can to get out. Start saving money and work on getting balances down! How can you be a servant to God if you are a servant to the bank, the car dealerships, and the credit card companies? You'll spend most of your time worring vs. enjoying life. This is the perfect recipe for disaster in any marriage, new or old. The concept of marriage is already new to the two of you and your both trying to figure things out while merging life with a new person. Additional stress on your shoulders should be avoided at all costs. Start making budgets together with your new spouse and stick to them. If God asked you to serve him as a missionary how long would you have to work for your credit masters so that you could serve your Heavenly Master? You can't completely serve God if you are a slave to the bank.
|Posted on July 11, 2018 at 11:50 AM|
Never sever ties with your other friends after you get married; however, you should build a relationship with your spouse that will endure through your life. Some friends will come and go and some relationships will change. Some people will move on and distance can strain a friendship. But your husband will be with you for the rest of your life. Remember this as you begin to build a relationship with one another.
Obviously you already have a special bond or you would'nt even be married. Don’t stop building your love for one another just because the two of you were announced as Mr. and Mrs. Newlywed. Your lifelong journey together is just beginning. Work on your relationship by building more and more trust in your spouse. Create experiences that the two of you can fondly look back upon and remember with joy. This does not have to be fancy or expensive trips or gifts. If you just live your lives with shared experiences, that will always bring you closer together.
|Posted on June 22, 2018 at 3:10 PM|
If you are experiencing the post-wedding blues after you got married that's totally normal. After all the excitement of planning and having a wedding it’s natural to feel a dip in your mood. But what way can you keep that same excitement later in your marriage? Continue to have adventures with your spouse. Studies have shown that when people take risks (healthy and not dangerous) or try something new, it can trigger the release of dopamine in the brain. You can get the same effect from trying new foods together or riding a roller coaster at an amusement park. When you try something new, the both of you will always keep learning and growing together. You'll forever keep things fresh in your marraige!
|Posted on June 8, 2018 at 12:35 AM|
The first year of marriage is crucially important for your future happiness. There is a famous therapist who refers to this first year as “the wet cement year,” because that is the time when people figure out how to live life together but without getting stuck. Or not developing bad habits that might trap them later! The first year is the time when you want to establish good patterns of living and this should continue throughout the rest of your marriage.
Throughout your home, always create spaces so the two of you actually want to spend time together. This is the most important thing you can do as a new wife if you want your husband to want to stay in the home WITH YOU! If your home feels like an office or a hotel that the two of you are just passing through than that's not good. It's time to start visting some home stores, big box stores etc. and pick up scented candles, lamps, pillows, wall hangings like mirrors, pretty pictures and crystal vases or figurines. Fill in any void areas on walls, coffee tables and shelves. Paint the walls in each room with a soft, calming color. Or paint an accent wall in your master bedroom, family room or living room. A good idea to create an accent wall is by using wall paper. Today there are lots of cool options for wall paper including peel and stick, removable wall paper. Regardless to what you choose, use a soft color and don't go with anything too bold. It's easier to decorate around softer colors, if you need to add a pop of color you can do so with some of the items you place in the room. Purchase some inexpensive verticle blinds and / or curtains in colors that coordinate with the space. Placing a rug under the dining room table is a good way to finnish the look in that room. If you have an eat-in kitchen table area, place a rug under that table as well. For the bathrooms get some throw rugs, some fancy towels, a shower curtain rod and some pretty curtains that all work together with colors and patterens. Choose the same way with a soap dish, lotion pump, waste basket, flameless candles and a towel rod. In the bedroom you can buy a new comforter set, a bench or ottaman (place at the end of the bed) rugs and curtains. Keep adding interesting and unique items to all of the rooms in your house until you get that "homey" feel when you walk through the front door. You'll be surprised at how much warmer your home will feel when your done. Husbands love to see their wives making an effort to pull spaces together. When people visit your home he'll be honored to call you his wife!
|Posted on May 31, 2018 at 12:45 AM|
Relationships continue to develop in different stages after the honeymoon is over. Most of us are familiar only with the early stages: meeting, dating, courtship and commitment. Others have experienced moving in, marriage and then the honeymoon phase, where everything is brand new and wonderful. Extending the honeymoon phase indefinitely is what many people's idea of happily ever after is. However, when the exhausting process of planning a wedding and honeymoon is over and the couple comes home to realities such as work, money issues, etc., the post-honeymoon shock starts to set in. Real life is not as romantic as the courtship, wedding and honeymoon, but the real work of developing a great marriage begins at this point.
Here are four simple rules to maintain a successful marriage:
1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other. This can be about your frustrations, sex, something that might have made you angry, a disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, just about everything! Remember that communication is vital to the success of any marriage!
2. Strive to work together to solve anything that comes up —always act as a team, a partnership. Never get stuck on who’s right or who's wrong. Focus on what will solve the problem.
3. Keep your connection going through communication, sex, affection, understanding and concern for each other.
4. Have a sense of humor; always give the benefit of the doubt, care about each other.